Saturday, 31 May 2008
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After reading a post from someone, it just hooked me on an issue. I admit that i seldom and try to avoid writing post on my relationship with my extended family, however, for this time i shall post my stand.
Someone told me that i'm too calculative towards my in-laws. Let me ask you a question. "Will you take up a $1300 (before CPF) job with 10 working hours plus you have a advance dip certificate?"
Well, i know there is perks working with them as i can take leave as an when in need for kammy and no need to pay for transport. Being grateful for their help in paying for most of our wedding expenses, hospital bills and to provide me a shelter. With that i mind, i accept their offer and worked for 7 months.
During those months, my money always meet no end and dearie always tell me the same thing and since then, i know i cannot depend on him neither my in-laws. I tried to save up on eating expenses and until i couldn't squeeze out any more cents, i loan from mummy. That's my last resort as i don't want her to worry for me.
In the end, i quit the job in early april and MIL totally ignored me till now. Maybe she's not someone dear to me that's why i didn't feel anything just the mentality of "that's it, i can survive and earn money to move out someday".
Am i really being calculative?? For all i know, for kammy alone, the expense is $800 which doesn't include medical expense "if" she fall sick. Meal for a month minimum is $200 for both dear & me and other expenses not included etc.. How to survive??
I told that person that you might think i'm being calculative but if i don't plan and save for all of us who will support us?? Nobody!! After all it's my family i have to support, i have to think of and save up. Since i can't depend on dear, i have to work very hard myself. I wanted to give kammy the best, i hope that she can go for classes when she grows up and hope that whenever she see any beautiful toys, i can get it for her.
Maybe people are selfish in certain way but who can understand from my view? I hope one day MIL will think on my view instead of hers.. After all, i thought for them also, that's why initially i agreed in working for them coz it's hard to find an account with that little pay.. After so long, i should also plan for myself..
Last of all, i'm glad that i have my dearest daddy, mummy and jiejie to help me out financially, my bestie lynn to share same sorrow as me and my friends who supported me in my decision which let me feel not that guilty for not helping out in the family business.. =)